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When our mind and heart do not believe that we are doing as well as we could be, or that life is not going as well as it could go, we move out of alignment with our soul’s vibration and purpose.
A detrimental ripple effect is created from the moment we acknowledge:
"Something feels wrong."
No matter how developed a person is or how much they have transformed within themselves, we’ve all felt this.
Unfortunately, when we linger in these thoughts, it will tug and pull us away from the natural rhythm and vibration of our loving soul. As this happens, we move out of alignment with our highest path and greatest wellbeing. It also greatly colors how we see life.
The old paradigm is about changing something physically, outside of us.
The new paradigm is about changing our perspective of the situation, person or thing.
Often clients will initially come to me asking how they can change a loved one, a partner or child’s behavior. It’s common for me to hear, “How do I get them to stop doing this?” or “How do I get them to do this?” My reply every time is, “Change your perspective of the situation and allow the situation to align with your new perspective.”
We can change our own perspective and have the new perspective change the physical world around us in the most immediate and impactful way.
Please take a moment to meditate on this approach, because while it sounds simple and probably something you believe you’ve done or heard before, it takes tremendous patience. It is super simple to understand in theory, but can be very challenging to put into practice consistently. Patience is key. It is through patience with yourself, as you change a perspective on a situation and with those involved, that you will see energy move and reality become different.
Situations where you feel a tug or pull with a little voice saying something is ‘off’ or ‘wrong’ or ‘not okay’, do this:
1. Take a deep grounding breath into the present moment and feel your body.
2. Ask yourself the question and take your time to imagine, “If I was to envision and feel that this experience is ‘right’ and that I’m ‘okay’, what would it look like and feel like?” You may choose to journal about what you imagine.
At first, being patient with yourself to view situations this way may feel like effort, but you will eventually create a new perspective of viewing life from this soul-based perspective.
This is a perspective shift!
• By moving from ‘wrong’ to ‘right’ and from ‘not okay’ to ‘okay’, you will align with much more peace and passion for your life that exists now—in this moment.
• From there, you will know exactly what action to take next, if any.
You may not believe the new perspective at first. It may be difficult to get in touch with. Be patient. It is okay if it feels artificial at first. You are getting parts of you into alignment with your soul’s loving, peaceful nature.
This is one of many understandings to align with your soul and live a soul-based life.
As we take one step closer to soul alignment, we become more aligned with our soul’s purpose on this planet.
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Each of us loses an immediate family member. The grieving process is natural and important, but at the same time we have an incredible opportunity to have a new and more expansive relationship with them as spirit, their nonphysical soul. Not only can we feel our deceased loved ones, but see them and even have a two-way conversation with them. We are never alone. Spirit is always with us.
Unexpectedly on June 12, 2017 my twenty-eight-year-old sister Jenna died. Her death and the circumstances around it were shocking and traumatic for our family, along with all the people that Jenna touched during her physical life.
Losing a person at such a young age is challenging because we know they had more of their life to live. She was planning her wedding and honeymoon the week she passed. I wish I had more time with her.
The third day after her passing, I was lying in bed anticipating flying from California to Maryland to be a part of the services. My own thoughts changed to advice about feeling patient and calm as I make my way through the airport, and to take my time being present. As this was happening, my intuitive knowing recognized it was Jenna speaking in my mind.
A vision of Jenna came to me the next day. She had the biggest, brightest smile and I could hear her voice in my mind saying, "I am great." She was showing me the absolute joy and peace she had as spirit. I received a glimpse of what it felt like and her big smile became contagious. I began smiling too.
Father's Day was her viewing and service. Before the public arrived, I was able to have a private viewing of her. I asked intuitively if Jenna's soul was with me and my intuition showed that she was with her mother, who needed her more at the time.
A little while later I kneeled by the casket to speak with her spirit. I felt her come into the space with me. She reassured me she had total peace and loves us. Then, she said her mom was arriving to the service, and a minute later she walked in.
Thereafter, Jenna would pop in my mind and provide me with guidance. She told me she would help me through challenges I had been experiencing. I feel grateful and cherish this new relationship we have. (Pictured left to right: Melissa Lilly and Jenna Lilly)
Everyone can continue their relationship with their deceased loved ones. Some loved ones who pass will become spiritual guides and some will simply be there to call on from time to time.
Consider two things:
1. Be open and allow yourself to experience your deceased loved ones as the loving spirit they are now, and...
2. Believe they want to continue being a part of your life and that they do want to communicate with you.
You may experience thoughts in your mind that seem like it's your loved one advising you, a vision of them, or a voice in your mind that you hear. It could be a simple knowing that they are with you, or a subtle feeling they are near.
Have you sensed something after your loved one passed?
Please believe it when you sense it. Share about this blessing with others so they may be inspired to continue a relationship with their deceased loved ones.
Our Voice Channeling® training teaches people how to directly communicate with their deceased loved ones and spiritual guides. Our Psychic Retrieval® training teaches people how to fully activate intuitive senses to perceive the nonphysical. Students have had phenomenal experiences with their deceased parents and loved ones actually embracing them, watching over and guiding them. Tremendous healing happens.
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Trusting a message that comes from seemingly nowhere, from an unseen, intangible source, may feel risky to you and you are not alone in your feelings.
When we witness something physical, we typically believe it more. You look into the eyes of your loved one, feel their warm embrace and hear them say, "I love you." You don't think for a moment it's not real or doubt the reality that it happened. But we doubt spirit.
We've been conditioned to trust our physical senses and doubt our nonphysical senses. It started at a very early age.
What if you gave as much validation to your nonphysical senses as you did to your physical ones? Then, when you receive an insight of how your spirit guide may appear, feel the sense of their presence and hear a thought come into your mind of something helpful, you will know that what happened is as real as your friend giving you a hug.
We are out of practice with this approach. We are desensitized to it. Trusting something nonphysical that you hear or see isn't just abnormal, it is seen as a mental illness by some or immature and weird by others. We have a valid reason to feel unsafe with our nonphysical senses, due to the bombardment of stimuli telling us it's only going to bring us rejection, pain and letdown.
Consider courageously practicing an approach to life where you perceive 50% with your nonphysical senses and 50% with your physical senses. For example, if you are having a conversation with someone, let their physical voice carry half the meaning and their unspoken thoughts and emotions carry the other half.
It is truly rewarding to choose to observe interactions with people from this 50/50 standpoint. I often observe communication 80% nonphysical and see the words spoken as a carrier for the true meaning, and this approach has been extremely helpful with coaching my clients and students. It has also cultivated a confidence in my ability to speak with spirit.
The way I sensitize myself to spirit each day is by giving as much validation, or more, to my nonphysical senses as I do my physical ones. While this may feel new at first for you to try, it will be extremely fulfilling in your pursuit of being a clear, confident medium and psychic.
Sensitize yourself to the beauty of existence experienced through your nonphysical ears, eyes, mind and feeling, or in other words your four intuitive qualities.
From this practice, you will begin to trust spirit more everyday and benefit from their messages to you.
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You think you got a message from spirit.
You are somewhere in the range of,
• "Maybe it happened, but maybe it didn't," to. . .
• "I am pretty confident that it was spirit, but not 100%."
You have doubts and all sorts of reasons why it was probably not spirit. You have decided it must be your mind or imagination and therefore untrue.
This is where most people STOP.
Sinking into their doubts, maybe even thinking self-deprecating thoughts about themselves, they blow off the message they received.
Have you done this before?
Everyone I've met, including myself, has felt this way at some point in their development of spiritual communication.
The nagging question of "Was it really spirit?" can close us down, and we want to redirect our energy in a way that opens us up.
Instead of focusing on proving whether the messages are from spirit, ask yourself the most important question:
"Does the message resonate with me, and does it help?"
Since your spiritual guidance is here to support you, the support you receive is what matters.
In asking yourself this new question, for a moment, you can take spirit out of the equation.
Imagine you came across the message in a post online or a friend shared it with you.
Does the message resonate with you, and does it help?
• Resonance means that it "rings true", "makes sense" and looks, feels or sounds "aligned" with you.
• Helpful means that it appears beneficial.
Chances are that the message is helpful and you can see the benefit of believing it and following the advice.
If the message helps, then it helps. And that's the point.
Spirit is giving you messages to help you and even if you're unsure if it came from spirit, please don't waste the great advice! 🙂
Come back to the question of, "Does this message resonate and does it help?" And if the answer is "YES," then take action.
Your confidence in receiving from spirit will grow over time. In hindsight you'll see the benefits of acting on the messages you receive.
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