Your family is your greatest opportunity to be a leader. And when you have the respect of being a leader in your family, you can be a leader anywhere – in the office, with friends, in your community, and even globally.

Parents and teachers have the most profound role in leading children by exemplifying soul-based living. Simply put, this is living your life through the perspective of love.

Soul-based living is teaching children that instead of judging and reacting, we are choosing to observe and learn. Soul-based living is choosing to love and accept, no matter what, unconditionally. Because after all, real love is without conditions.

As a young child, I experienced feeling judged by my family with their own belief systems about what a “good girl” and “bad girl” is. Later as a teenager, I felt unaccepted and was often considered to be the “black sheep” of my family. My parents didn’t know what to do with me because I was different. For me, one of the saddest things was not being understood by my parents, and therefore feeling unaccepted and unloved. Many children and adults have had a similar experience and are still struggling with the feeling of not having a place in this world. Understanding is a soul-based quality.

Spirit, how do you recommend people build self-confidence, and not be distracted or concerned by what others think?

Through Melissa Voice Channeling^®, spirit shared:

Building one's confidence is a unique idea because it requires you to be steadfast in your beingness.

Your beingness is a combined experience of your soul connection, clarity of one's truth or position on the matter, and ultimately a greater wisdom of the situation and moment you are in.

The fact that you exist is the only proof you need to value and accept yourself. You are alive and so it is your birthright to feel confident, from your first moment in this world to your last.

As you move forward to realize your most fulfilling life and abundant health, accessing your untapped potential for healing is extremely important.

It could be said that there are three main ways to influence your life and cultivate a wellbeing that adds decades to your life, slowing or even stopping the aging process.

These three ways represent the three universes, the: Source, Nonphysical, and Physical. We're going to introduce these ways to help you master your energy, so you can live fully and purposefully.

The Physical Universe represents using your mind to reprogram your thoughts, so you can refocus your mental and emotional energies to manifest the most abundant life. We call this soul-based living, because ideally it's aligning your emotions and thoughts with your soul's true loving perspective. When this happens, an untapped potential is released.

Sometimes when we choose to believe that life should be a happy, loving, comfortable experience, it can limit us from receiving everything this Universe has for us and what is most purposeful for our soul.

Deep down not a single person would consciously prefer to be uncomfortable. The issue is not about whether you would prefer to be comfortable or uncomfortable, because both will happen. The accomplishment here is being able to see an equal value in both.

By valuing both equally, we can eventually evolve into preferring them equally, without judgement, based on what is most purposeful for our soul.

Then, our inner dialogue changes from, “What makes me comfortable?” to “What is serving and supporting my soul's purpose?”

Comfort and discomfort do not define you as a good person or bad person, or an ego-based or soul-based person.

High emotions can greatly reduce happiness and intimacy, leading to pain and suffering.

Charged-up relationships feel volatile. How do we turn a triggering situation with someone into an empowering opportunity to feel abundant peace and happiness?

The short answer is to love yourself, which allows you to love others, but this is how you get there:

My relationships with close family and my life partner is highly emotional at times. We know this is part of being human in today's world. We can experience heightened emotions with loved ones.

People show a spectrum of love, and that is what we really want to remember when understanding the path to feeling more love. Our love is expressed clearer sometimes than others.

Holidays, big transitions, and differences of opinion, often shine light on the parts of us that express unclear love.

Manifesting a purposeful life is more important than manifesting a long life.

Refocusing our underlying motivation is how we can better create our soul's destiny!

Consider pivoting from, "May you have a long and happy life," to "May you live a purposeful and soul-based life."

Our soul's viewpoint is not to extend future moments, but to be present for this moment, here, now.

Our soul sees the length of a life not as better or worse, but instead asks the questions at the completion of its life, "What opportunities did I seize? Did I choose to love and accept, when it was most difficult? Did I contribute what I intended to share with the Earth?"

Many people don't feel a relationship with spirit. Instead, they feel disconnected. But deep down, everyone wants to feel oneness with spirit.

Questioning if spirit is with you, produces doubtful feelings. Don't question it, or wait for 'proof'. Create your own 'proof'.

Spirit is always with you, each moment of your existence, in a real way.

Be ambitious. Tap into your relationship with spirit. Create your spiritual oneness.

Here's how you can get started.

Your situation hasn't changed. . . but you've done the work to change your thoughts about the situation and there is no perceived improvement, what do you do?

To break through the areas that seem impossible, you want to understand subconscious healing. And as you read on, you'll learn an exercise to move your inner and outer mountains!

Let's get real with the underlying reason we feel inner conflict: When two or more parts of you are thinking or creating something different, you experience inner conflict.

Changing the sabotaging part of you is not the hard part.

Revealing that conflicting part is often the illusive journey.

Have you felt that you are sensitive to people and situations?

Looking back, you may notice that you picked up on people's feelings, thoughts, and even physical pains and discomforts. This likely means you are a strong intuitive feeler, also known as clairsentience.

When interacting with people as an intuitive feeler, you must be aware of two things:

#1 Read energy, instead of experiencing or taking on energy.

#2 Maintain a grounded energy or aura.

These two things will significantly support a sensitive feeler in their daily interactions to be unaffected by other people's energy and feel more at peace.

Feeling powerless and trapped, doing things you don’t want to do, is one of the worst feelings.

Have you been invited to go out with friends and told them, “I can’t go because I need to do something?”

It's common to provide them with a reason that you “have to do”, “should do” or “need to do” some other obligation. This view is particularly disempowering and will leave you feeling some sense of contracted energy or inner conflict.

The true objective reality is we don’t do something out of 'need', we do it out of 'want'. This is true with everything we do. We do it because we want to do it. On some level, we are choosing to participate in the experience, even though we believe we have no choice.

When our mind and heart do not believe that we are doing as well as we could be, or that life is not going as well as it could go, we move out of alignment with our soul’s vibration and purpose.

A detrimental ripple effect is created from the moment we acknowledge:

"Something feels wrong."

No matter how developed a person is or how much they have transformed within themselves, we’ve all felt this.

Unfortunately, when we linger in these thoughts, it will tug and pull us away from the natural rhythm and vibration of our loving soul. As this happens, we move out of alignment with our highest path and greatest wellbeing. It also greatly colors how we see life.